A Matter of Perspective

Perspective is a funny thing. Your whole view (literal or figurative) can change with just a slight change in perspective (literal or figurative). A change in perspective can come after a good night’s sleep. A change in perspective can come after listening to a trusted friend for advice. A change in perspective can come after 20 years. A change in perspective can come after you’ve been shaken to your core and everything you thought you knew is different. A change in perspective can come with careful practice, examining yourself and situation and looking at outcomes and how things can change … Continue reading A Matter of Perspective

Summer Stories

Summer is unique among seasons. It’s hot and it usually feels different compared to the rest of the year. Summertime in childhood was unstructured and free. My younger sister and I rode our bikes in the afternoons to the small town pool and relished in cool water and friends. The rest of the day was broken up by books and maybe some TV time and playing with friends and cousins. My mom required us to do a few chores, but the joy of summer was in the lack of structure. We usually had longer visits at my dad’s in the … Continue reading Summer Stories


When I was six, my good friend Demi, also six, could do the splits, just as casually as she could walk. In fact, she could walk and make a big step and fall into the splits, with maybe only a slight adjustment needed for her clothes. We liked to run fast on the blacktop playground and flip upside down on the bars. We also liked dresses, so we wore shorts underneath. I always thought of Demi as flexible, in the literal sense, but looking back, I see how our six-year-old practicality and openness was also flexibility. Anyone who wanted to, … Continue reading Flexibility

Endings and Forgiveness

I don’t talk or write very often about endings. I have written a lot about beginnings, starting new projects, greeting a new season, and even resetting to begin again. Very few posts in this blog have to do with ending and completion. When I ran a marathon in 2015, there was a lot of celebration at the starting line. Surprisingly, there was much less hoopla at the finish line. In a lot of ways this makes sense. In the marathon, we all start more or less together, thousands of people beginning the journey, but then we spread out over the … Continue reading Endings and Forgiveness

Doing What You Love (Not Necessarily for Pay)

“Do what you love; you’ll be better at it. It sounds pretty simple, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t get this one right away.”– LL Cool J Okay, “do what you love” is all over Instagram (my favorite social media) and the internet. It sounds great, doesn’t it? But, I think when most of us read it, myself included, we jump to the conclusion of loving our jobs and careers. And that’s when this whole sentiment becomes difficult. All of a sudden, this doing what you love thing becomes a trap. Those of us who are just scraping … Continue reading Doing What You Love (Not Necessarily for Pay)

Dreaming and Doing with a Dry Erase Board

Recently, I got a lease renewal notice from my landlord taped to my door. I opened it, puzzled, because I moved into this apartment in October more than three years ago. Ownership had changed a year ago, and they were changing terms and getting caught up with residents. Luckily, they gave me more than a month to decide if I was going to renew my lease and for how long. Weirdly, when I get my lease renewal, I start dreaming of impermanence and travel. I guess that when you have a mortgage and a house or condo, you take a … Continue reading Dreaming and Doing with a Dry Erase Board

A Startling Moment of Clarity

Thursday has always been my favorite day of the week. In my current work schedule, it’s my “Friday” (the last day of work before two days off, the weekend) and I get to work with one of my favorite co-workers and when we close, it’s easy and fun. There’s no B.S. and we enjoy working together. I drove home after we closed the store, the quiet drive in the dark and I thought about the upcoming weekend. I didn’t have any concrete plans, just a couple of chores and some free time and maybe getting together with a friend. I … Continue reading A Startling Moment of Clarity